I’ve slept with both sexes. Men and women and though I prefer men almost exclusively I remember a time in my sex life where a women satisfied my needs. But am I bisexual? No. 

I deal almost exclusively with the LGBT community anymore and in a group everyone is well behaved and mannered. But when we’re alone I notice that lines get drawn. Bisexuals always getting the short end of the stick. Straights avoid them, gays want them to pick a side and the bisexual community seems to be pushed to the outer realms of our little gaytopia because of a lack of empathy, compassion and an unrealistic expectation. Sound familiar? Sounds like that’s exactly what happens to us gays and lesbians and transgendered peeps. We should never be the ones to draw a line for people to toe especially when we have spent so much effort on getting people who can never understand us to accept us. What kind of double standard is that? Be like us or else…

I had a boyfriend for about 2 1/2 years and we broke up, but I remember being hurt a little when I found out later on he’s married, to a woman. He wasn’t bisexual when we were dating, he was against it. But in retrospect I have to admit that as gay as I am, I wouldn’t close the door on love. Do I believe that I could love a woman? Not really, do I believe its going to happen?? Nope! I have pretty specific desires that only a man can fulfill. But then again, I’m not a young man anymore and sex isn’t everything. Love is love is love.

I guess my point is that we are all “queer” people, peculiar in our own ways and we need to support one another in every way possible. We don’t need a complete understanding of everything to love it and support it. At least I don’t. I hope that most folks can just take some things at face value. 

Just to clarify, I’m not bisexual. But anything is possible! I could wake up tomorrow with six fingers, unlikely, but it is possible. I could love a woman sexually tomorrow, highly unlikely, but entirely possible. So I don’t entirely understand bisexualism, but hey, I don’t have to. 

With Love

Jeff Utnage