“I could never be a professional dancer, those people eat, sleep, and breathe dance” she said, her eyes wincing into a slit before looking down at the table between us.

“Oh yeah?” I just couldn’t stop the next words from coming out, they were reflexive “What do you eat, sleep and breathe?” I watched in some delight as she squirmed in her chair and for the briefest of moments I thought she was going to lunge at me. Instead she sat and for the first time since I met her she was truly thinking. I found the information I needed as a mentor, which is the things she doesn’t already know, the missing pieces to herself. I stared directly into her eyes and pinned her with my gaze, impressed that she didn’t break.

“I don’t understand how to answer that.” She replied finally, sinking back into her chair and picking up an old issue of Elle Magazine. She turned to a random page and held it up to me in display and said “this, I understand” pointing to horoscopes from April, 7 months ago when Elle was still printing magazines, before COVID.

Those simple words that I practically slingshot back at someone got me thinking about other people in my life. The people in my life must eat, sleep and breathe something? Most of them I know how some goal, but only a few “eat, sleep, and breathe” anything.

I eat, sleep, and breathe criminology and helping people change their lives from criminal behavior and I have a special place in my heart for LGBT people, but I will mentor anyone, with love.

My friend Christopher eats, sleeps, and breathes mathematics.

I can think of 1 or 2 more, but when I think of people who make it into something big, they started out by “I eat, sleep, breathe….” whatever it is they’re known for. Major success doesn’t happen by accident.

I guess I’d like to challenge you to take a moment and think about what you eat, sleep, and breathe. Because if you don’t have an answer for that…well, perhaps you should.

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Ruth Utnage
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