Criticism is a powerful tool that if looked at in the right way can provide you with invaluable information that will help in every area of your life, if you can be big enough to handle it.

I was not always able to take criticism over well. Over my incarceration I have learned to not only accept it, but to use it for my advantage. In order for me to do that effectively I had to reframe how I view criticism. Here’s what I do:

1. I give myself permission to not be offended.

2. I remind myself that if I could see my socially fatal flaws, I would have fixed them already, someone MUST point them out to me.

3. It may be personal to the criticizer, but it doesn’t have to be personal to me, its simple data.

4. What harm can come from humility? Try entertaining their point of view as valid and adjust for a few weeks, tell people what you’re doing to see if it’s better

5. Delivery doesn’t matter, I don’t need the information to be pretty, it simply needs to be there. Check my ego, not their delivery of the information.

6. Lastly, put your grown-up pants on. You’re gonna do things wrong and it’s okay to make personal changes, its called growth. Try it.

Let me know if this helps you!

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