Self-worth is a decision we make, not a goal that gets achieved. It’s not a moment that suddenly exists and stays in our lives, we have to seek it and choose it and remind ourselves of it, sometimes a lot.
I have come to the conclusion that true courage is making the decision to be worthy. To love yourself, and to go beyond ordinary love into the realm of worthiness, that takes courage. To recognize your own value as a being, a creation that exists here on this planet, in this galaxy, in the space of this universe without anyone having to say it to you, what a challenge to believe!
I am working a lot on this concept in my personal development and have come to realize that so many people I know, myself included, have a low sense of self-worth. Sure, if you ask them about it they say they have good self-worth, but their actions state otherwise. Will Smith once said “You have to love yourself enough to tell yourself no.” He was talking about self-discipline. What we put in our bodies is a direct sign of our self-worth. If you have a child, you don’t give them cigarettes or drugs, you feed them balanced meals and take exception when the school lunch has a cookie, because it’s not good for them. But then you’ll get fast-food, drink an energy drink or not eat at all, take smoke breaks or “vape” (seriously, eww!), and some even do drugs. This is not loving yourself! This is hurting yourself!
I’m not trying to get us all browbeat, but it paints the necessary picture of one element of self-worth and how we can begin to take that courageous step from unconscious unworthiness to conscious worthiness and it begins by telling yourself “I’m worthy”, that’s it, you start there.
If you’d like some real help in this arena, I suggest the book “Daring Greatly” by the lifesaving Brene Brown. She’s become on of my personal heroes for her work in vulnerability and shame, she’s certainly helped change my life.
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Writing down 5 positive affirmations, say them once a day for 21 days, and write an essay on how it made you feel. Send me that…