I've been a secret keeper as well. I hold secrets today. Not my own, I'm an open book by choice, but that's my choice. Others secrets, that's what I hold, because that's their choice. Sometimes, I am their secret. While I will hold their secret I won't respect them as a person, I see them as cowards.
The biggest mistake I've made in life was not coming to terms with who I am out of fear. That led me into some dark territory eventually and I know it was a majority part because as soon as I came out as gay, then gender non-conforming, and finally transgendered I was able to see my life with clarity...finally, a weight was lifted.
When someone tells me in secret they find me attractive, which happens ALOT folx, I am first flattered. However, when that leads to "don't let the homies know", well...while I will respect the sanctity of choice I will not respect a coward.
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