Human Me

Managing Your Anger: You Know, Everyone Feels It, Right? by Jeff (aka Ruthie) Utnage

I went through this class early in my sentence called Compassion-Focused Therapy. It was a unique approach to working with anger. At the time I was a therapy aide for a friend who was blind (someone gouged his eyes out a few years prior) whom I also lived with. I was still new to being …

Impossible by Jeff aka Ruthie Utnage

I hate the word impossible. If your not familiar with me already, I revisit this word every so often and go a few rounds with it, like Peter and Chicken. There are an incredible amount of things that have been accomplished that someone said was impossible. Impossible is simply someone’s opinion and usually one rooted …

My Personal Statement by Jeff aka Ruthie Utnage

I have an AA degree in Business Management, college certificates in Small Business Entrepreneurship and Web Development, and own www.lgbtqprisonsupport.com – a successful blog. I have several public speaking awards accompanied by over 700 hours of public speaking and workshop administration. Helped co-author and facilitate peer-support groups and workshops as well as mentor some of …

Name Change by Jeff (aka Ruthie) Utnage

I came out trans a few weeks ago and have been stretching my wings so to speak. One of those things that comes to mind is getting rid of the name given to me, Jeff, and replacing it with a more fitting feminine name. I have spent a considerable amount of years debating this in …

Our LGBTQ Community by Jeff (aka Ruthie) Utnage

As an LGBT community we can face public scrutiny that seems to overshadow everything else. Our allies take it on the chin for standing tall with us and even though we have an entire community behind us one persons venom can seemingly overpower everything positive we have going on by causing us to focus our …

Unconscious Bias On The LGBT Community by Jeff aka Ruthie Utnage

Unconscious bias on minority and/or marginalized groups has gained an increase in attention as of late. Important bodies of work from civil rights activists and movements have surfaced, resurfaced in many cases, and provided a framework for what unconscious bias means and how to spot it.Unconscious bias can be this subtle moment between two people …

How Do You Know Someone Has Changed? by Jeff (Ruthie) Utnage

I have a personal stake in this question. I do not want to live under the stigma of prisoner forever. To be a convicted criminal means I am ostracized and outcast from normal society. It means that while I belong in the category “Incarcerated” I am less than. When I get out I belong in …

Get Up and Grind by Jeff (aka Ruthie) Utnage

Will Smith once said “99% of all people are unwilling to do what it takes to accomplish their dreams.” Now get up and grind. Do the hard task of showing up, even when you just want to lay in bed or do anything else, grind. Subscribe, Follow, Interact, Comment and change YOUR community.With LoveJeff (aka …

Plugging The Hole by Jeff (Ruthie) Utnage

Alright, maybe I could have chosen a different title, but if I can’t mess with you guys who can I mess with? Actually we are talking about brain stuff.Did you ever have a moment where you felt like singing? How about praying? It gets triggered by some event or word or ? It is kind …

Make People Tired Just By Looking At You: Be A Mountain To Be Climbed Rather Than A Speed Bump To Drive Over by Jeff (aka Ruthie) Utnage

What I love about my LGBT sisters and brothers is that we are full of giants. I have drawn so much strength from those folks who have spent their lives discovering exactly who they are (and sometimes who they are not!). I heard a speech today that included the words in the title, but stated …