Human Me

What Do You Do If Your Gay (or Lesbian or Transgendered or Bisexual) and married?

If your married and have recently come to terms with your own sexuality or gender identity telling your spouse can be a real heartache. Unfortunately, there is no easy, one size fits all answer, but perhaps I can provide some direction.First you have to know what you want the expected outcome to be. Is it …

Feeding On Broken Hearts: The Ice Queen Cometh

This is for all my gurls, my queens, my princesses, and femmes. How many men have tried to tame our hearts? Settle our minds between their palms, expecting submission. Not just ciswomen experience this anymore. Now gay and bi men, drag queens, and trans folk everywhere have become the prey of masculine conquest. Our predecessors were …

Conform or be destroyed – By James Goodwin

conform or be destroyed. this is the ultimatum of the puppets and puppet masters alike.this is gender, this is how one behaves, dresses and acts. fit in, knuckle under and question not.there is this ever present sense of the end of all things that lurks within us all, the fear of our immanent demise. we …

Quilting Therapeutically

I am almost 36 years old, grew up on the banks of the Missouri river surrounded by bikers and anger. Masculinity was very defined and deviation meant…well, nobody knew because you just didn’t do it. I am in prison, a soft one (thankfully) and I’ve made yet another delightful discovery, quilting.I’m not very good yet, …

The Downsides of Getting Educated (and Taking it Seriously!)

I remember as a little boy my Mother and I would drive from our newest apartment in Eastern Nebraska to my aunt and uncles latest farmhouse somewhere in Western Iowa. We were all just one step above vagabonds. I was an intelligent child, far beyond my actual age. The first novel I read was John Grisham’s, …

Clearly Defining Relationships: Being Genuine Upfront (What A Concept!)

What if you could tell someone “I just want to talk to you long enough to feel more confident, then be on my way.” Furthermore, what if the other person would be totally okay with that? I run into folks who write me once, maybe twice before moving on their way for whatever reason. But, I would …

Marco Rubio Cites Immigration Activists as Reason For Government Shutdown

Activism rarely gets national attention and when it does its to make the all powerful government look better and the activist group maniacal. However, in this case, on 1/20/2018 while speaking from the Senate floor, just after 7p.m. EST, Senator Marco Rubio blames immigration activists for putting immense pressure on Senator Charles Schumer, blaming them …

One Of Us By: James Goodwin

Not since I first read the writings of Emma Goldman, like in “Anarchism and Other Essays”, have I been so moved in the wake of an other’s words. As I find myself now moved by Patrisse Cullors in “Policing The Planet: Why The Policing Crisis Led To Black Lives Matter”. As I child I was …

Friend After Friend By Jeff Utnage

Friend after friend,Get to know meThe They that I am,Not the man I once was.Ah! To no avail, I see,I bid you farewell,Friend after friend.No words need be said,I understand the language of the back.I will sit here yet again,Friend after friend.I talk and joke as friends might do,The They that I am,Likes the They in …

My Friends Dress By James Goodwin

My friends wants to wear a dress. This is the desire of his heart. Surrounded by judgment. Afflicted by bigotry and hate. He celebrates this desire.It is in his speech and in his movements. In the way he breathes and smiles. As if the dress is much more than cloth and fashion, but an expression …