Human Me

Life Lessons: Bitter Old Queens

You know what sucks about life lessons? In order to learn them you have to experience life and make some mistakes. I wondered what happened to bitter old queens to make them so pissy. But then, as I experience things and I see myself getting a bit bitter over time, it sucks.I am not going …

Flirting With Disaster: Do You Find Yourself With Many Men Interested In You But You Don’t Like Any Of Them?

I live in an environment that many, thankfully, don’t know anything about. I try to link the common demoninaters between the gay world out there and the gay world in here. There are some significant differences though. For instance, a straight man out there may be a femme queen in here just for survival. Then there …

Take Your Top Hat Off And Sit Down: Wishing There Were More Of James Dean Still

I was thumbing through a picture book the other day and it had all of these actors and actresses of the 40’s and 50’s. (save your snickering at the stigmas please) There were all these photos of James Dean, Cary Grant, Monroe and many many more. The one thing that caught my eye was the classy …

Never Steal Cayenne Pepper & Never, Ever Hide It In Your Underwear!

With all the talk of food and my belly growing like I’m a pregnant women in Walmart in a power outage I have been kind of a grumpy cat. Okay, actually I’ve been a real bitch. I am man enough to say it. But I got to thinking about what it is that I really …

Everything Is So Sexual In The Gay Community: Wanting Something Deeper

I get tired of hearing nothing but sex comments all day. Particularly when I am already a little on edge. When I am already a little bitchy someone comes along and says something that is sexual and it just flat out pisses me off. It wouldn’t be so bad if it wasn’t an everyday thing with …

Hiding For The Holidays: Emotional Walls Are Rising

I have spent many years now, dealing with my many ups and downs. Being cognizant of my emotional struggles I have noticed that this year I have been putting up some big ole’ walls. I have been at work every hour that they will let me and when I’m not there I’m doing everything possible to …

Catching “The Gay”: Watch Out Or We’ll Cough On You!

It never ceases to amaze me the hilarity of homophobia. Every night when I leave work we kinda get crammed in this little foyer type room where we wait for the door to get opened so we can go back to our living units. The tight space almost always invokes some talk about “fags do …

Flirting With Disaster: Gay Hypersexualization Leads To Broken Hearts And Bad Vibes

Being in a tight knit community where there is no hiding you tend to treat people differently. Your more conscious of how people view you because you have to see them everywhere you go. Imagine all your ex’s living in a big apartment building with you where you all eat at the same place and …